Of women, name change after marriages

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I AM a young adult and even before I knew my right from my left I knew women who got married drop their father’s names and pick up the names of their husband’s, but recent happenings have vowed to alter this my childhood knowledge and it is a very interesting twist, and many are attributing this to the rise of feminism.

The conversation trended on social media a couple of weeks ago and it was a very interesting one as many gave your opinions, for and against it.

I couldn’t be a party of the conversation due to hectic schedule, but now I can join in.
It is true that there has been a subtle or would I say major shift in times and some old traditions and cultures are being trumped by many as it only favoured some gender, subjecting some others, especially the women to the background: only to be seen and not heard.

Women were piece of properties owned and displayed by their husbands who must have paid heavily or not so heavy bride price to make them wife, and after the payment, the wife picks up her husband’s name, but things have taken an almost new turn.

Many women are advocating for the right to not drop their father’s name and picking up their husband’s name, because they do not see themselves as properties to be bought and owned by their husbands. The womenfolk say they have a right to not become a Mrs. Somebody, though they are Mrs. Somebody.

They stated their reason firmly and true to the words, they have a point.
Many of these women before their marriage had a life of their own and they were successful in their various fields and thus do not wish to not be known as just a Mrs. Somebody.

THIS IS A VERY INTERESTING ARGUMENT, AS BEFORE THIS TIME, THERE WAS NOTHING WOMEN WANTED SO BADLY, BUT TO DROP THEIR FATHER’S NAME AND PICK UP HUSBAND’S NAME, AND BECEOME A MRS. SOMEBODY. IT WAS A THING OF PRIDE AND JOY, AND ALSO AS AN ACHIEVEMENT AND MAJOR MILESTONE CROSSED IN LIFE.
Over the years, some women would rather hyphenate their father’s name and their husband’s names than drop their former name entirely.

It is a very important topic to be talked discussed between two persons, boy and girl, courting, who wish to be married someday, to avoid unnecessary arguments and major quarrels that may lead to the dissolution of the marriage.

Human beings are dynamic in their thoughts and in their actions and these actions are aided by reasons best known to the individual taking them. So, I believe humans should know themselves for who they are and also know what they and why they want what they want.

Someone has a choice and decision to make and marriage is a lifetime commitment and should be handled with maturity.

If people choose to drop their father’s name entirely, and pick up their husband’s name, I believe it is their call and decision to make. If they want to hyphenate, it is also their call, and the call to marry or not to also belongs to the individual.

What’s your take?

What do you say?

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